Healing that lands in your body, not just your head

Codependency can be understood in much the same way as addiction: the alcoholic wraps around the bottle; the codependent wraps around the person.

Both are attempts to soothe unmet needs, to mend a spiritual or emotional fracture, and to create a sense of inner equilibrium within a system that feels chaotic or ungrounded.

Unlike many chemical addictions, codependency often goes unnoticed. Its presence is sometimes invisible—even to those experiencing it—because the patterns can feel so familiar. Many people live their entire lives without realizing they are affected by codependency, especially in a culture that frequently reinforces and rewards self-sacrifice, over-responsibility, and pursuit of self-worth through external validation and societial standards and of beauty and success.

Addiction and codependency are often deeply woven into the fabric of family dynamics. Codependent patterns, though sometimes subtle, will most certainly have detrimental effects in our material lives; our work, our health, quality of relationships, etc. Existing on a spectrum, impacts of codependency can range from quietly limiting to profoundly disruptive.

Codependency often creates an internal structure that registers autonomy, authenticity, healthy individuation, and self-directed living as unsafe or unacceptable.

Symptoms of codependency vary. You might notice preoccupation with others, overthinking, depression and anxiety, unstable sense of self and self worth, difficulty setting boundaries, perfectionism, people-pleasing, resentment and frustration that is difficult to express.

Many people experience emptiness and feeling unsatiated or anxious within our interpersonal lives, chronic fatigue, shame. Many report feeling a lack of power and agency- as though we are at the mercy of life instead of feeling like an active participant and co-creator in it. Many turn to substance abuse and escaping behaviors.

In our work, we identify the obvious and external expressions of codependency in our lives. I support you in deepening your emotional literacy as we uncover the internalized codependent system. I offer both practical tools, spiritually-centered perspectives, and embodied practices that help interrupt the cycle.

Through trauma-informed, somatic, and relational work, we expand the nervous system’s capacity to tolerate safety, choice, and connection—opening new possibilities for healing ways of being, loving, and relating.